Why men marry bitches? (And WHY we should read this?!)

(There's some mistake I accidentally delete my post on 3th January, so I tried to write it back) 

TITLE: WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES
AUTHOR: SHERRY ARGOV
PUBLISHER: SIMON & SCHUSTER
ISBN: 978-0743276375

I've promised not to be picky subject of the book and will write a review, so I decided to pick the book that has a lighter topics than the previous. Let's talk about relationship, then.


After reading this book, I must admit this book ... too predictable. Even at the beginning of the book I was able to guess the continuation of the book will like what. In fact, I would suggest that rather than bother to read until the end of the book, you can just read the summary of the principles of relationship at the end of the book alone.

I do not want to discredit this book, because on the one hand there are some lessons we can learn from this book, it's just that the message was very clear at the beginning of the book, maybe even in the preface is enough to explain the contents of the book!

The author had explained at the beginning that the purpose of the word 'bitches' refers to the independent woman who is confident and do not want to depend on men. The author stresses that women are not supposed to change themselves to please her partner. Instead, he must be comfortable with themselves and make room for his partner and himself.

I liked the idea that women should be confident and comfortable going to him, but there are a few suggestions and messages that are less suitable to be applied by the community east. For example in Indonesia, which holds information society patriarchal culture, where men should be respected as the head of the family. When we get married in Indonesia, we do not just marry a couple, but also with his extended family (like it or not!). When we ignore our intention to make room on the couple, there is the possibility of mother-in-law who came advise. Terrible, isn't it?


Besides, believe it or not, there are many women in Indonesia (and many Asian countries generally) is still a virgin because virginity should be saved for her husband. Free sexual behavior can not be haphazardly applied, although admittedly probably in large cities many people feel mature enough to assess the value of virginity is not absolute in the marriage.

I also lamented how the author provides many examples of such extreme examples of beauty contestants who tried diplomacy to give her opinion about the famine and its plan to end the crisis flowerpots around the world because it happens that beauty contestants took ceramics in college majors. And I'm sure not all the contestants were shallow minded. I remember Lina Maria Hahne who represented Sweden in the Miss Universe 2008. At that time, Lina was studying to become a doctor in the last year of Medical School. She is involved in UNICEF and children charities.

I must admit, pretty fair writer, she had explained the target readers of this book is devoted to the good girls who think the best way to win the men are to follow his will and try to always succumb. She was explained a lot of through examples of her interview with the men to give you an idea of what men really want in general.


In my opinion, I have to process this book and adapt to the psychological situation for the people around me, but maybe it's a good book for women who feel less fortunate in love, so that you'll have different perspective for your problem.